REST vs GraphQL vs gRPC — Which One Should You Actually Use?

Every engineering team hits this conversation at some point. Someone proposes GraphQL. Someone else says REST is fine. A third person mentions gRPC and half the room goes quiet. The debate usually ends with the most senior person in the room picking what they're most familiar with. That's not a strategy — that's habit. Here's an objective breakdown of all three, when each one wins, and how to actually make the decision for your specific use case. The Core Mental Model Before comparing them, unde