“You Don’t Look Like You Have Four Kids:”  Challenging What We Think Motherhood Should Look Like

By Monica Radu Motherhood comes with a whole set of cultural expectations about what it should look like, feel like, and even who is seen as a “typical” mom. I was reminded of this recently during a quick doorstep conversation with a delivery driver. I mentioned how much I rely on their services with four little ones at home, and she said, “Oh, wow. You don’t look like you have four kids.” I think it was meant as a compliment; I’m pretty sure it was. But it stuck with me. Not because I was...