Every mainstream database uses fixed rules for deadlock victim selection. MySQL kills the one with the fewest locks. CockroachDB kills the youngest. PostgreSQL kills the one that closed the cycle. Not one of them can explain "why you" — the killed transaction just knows it got rolled back, no reason given. I wanted to see what happens if an LLM makes that decision instead. What I Built DDA is a Sidecar process. It sits outside the database, polls lock state, builds a wait-for graph, runs DFS cyc